When things are not going well, be it your in-laws, children, finances, accommodation etc. you are most likely to feel aggravated, blameful and even lose your joy and peace.
Most people seem to forget where their peace and joy come from. Let’s take you back on a journey, remember a while back, when you had absolutely nothing, nothing seemed to be going well, it looked like things would never get better, in spite of all this you had joy and peace, and that was what your relationship hung on to.
It is very right for you to want things to get better, for you to want to overcome the challenges around you but it should never be at the expense of your joy and peace.
A common myth is that most people think that when the situation gets better, perhaps when they move into a bigger house then they would be happier or perhaps when their income increases they would be able to enjoy each other.
A more comfortable house or increased income are right in themselves, the only thing is they don’t bring joy and peace.
Joy and peace come from the Lord, take your mind off of these things put them on the Lord, learn to draw on God’s abundant measure of peace, learn not to blame your lack of it on anyone or anything.
Your peace and joy is determined by where your mind is, STOP focusing on the trouble and the circumstance around you so that when things change for the better you can begin to enjoy them because you did not let go of your joy and peace.
Don’t make the mistake most people make they focus so much on increasing their income for example and allow their happiness to slip away in the process and when the increase comes they just can’t enjoy it, their joy and peace has been drained.
Set a test for your self right now, what is the state of your joy and peace especially when things are not going well? What can you say or do that would not just maintain but increase your joy and peace so that after the storm your love for each other gets even better.
It is possible to guard your peace and joy and not allow the things you go through to affect them. Get to work.
Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayer, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It is wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. Phil 4:7 The Message.