Dictionary defines forgiveness as to cease to resent, pardon, acquit, overlook, release, free or pass over. This is a very powerful tool in God’s hand. As you walk in forgiveness you loose your right to be hurt, this is God’s way of freeing you from the oppression and bondage of offences. Offence can have such a strong hold on your heart and mind even to the point of you being tortured. Unforgiveness is a good door for satan to bring a lot of rubbish into your life and marriage.
James 3:16 says “For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.(NKJV)”
You may ask, don’t I have a right to be hurt and to express it? Yes you do, only do not let it linger on, deal with it and get on with your life.
James 3:17 is where you want to be, But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits…. The only thing is, you can never get there without forgiveness. You will naturally not feel like forgiving, but the work of the Holy Spirit in your live will enable you to forgive. Forgiveness will help you live in true harmony with your spouse. Forgiveness releases you from the pain associated with every hurt. As you forgive you won’t retaliate or threaten; and hatred, judgement, condemnation, anger, rejection, grief, resentment will go from you.
You need to learn to let go of the issues of yesterday which try to contaminate the present and the future. Take any issue that threatens the hope of a pleasant and enjoyable marriage to Jesus. Ask Him to enable you to forgive and release your spouse or whoever it may be.
Forgiveness will restore joy to your marriage, take advantage of it today.